When one human tells another something, it is pretty common to say, "Me, too," in one form or another. It's just human nature, and most of the time, it can create a sense of connectedness ("I want a big piece of chocolate cake." "Me, too! Let's get one!") or is simply benign ("I like the nice weather." "Me, too.") Though I know people are just trying to be nice, to sympathize, and to relate to our experiences, the "me, too" response is often not the best one. Here are some forms of "me, too" we hear a lot:
- "My kid is a poor sleeper, too."
- "My kid can't talk yet, either."
- "My kid has a short attention span, too."
- "My kid had a tantrum the other day, too."
- "My kid needed ear tubes, too."
- "My kid needed an MRI, too."
- "My kid drools constantly, too."
- "My kid wasn't potty training at that age yet, either."
- "My kid walked late, too."
- "My kid also needs lots of help eating with utensils."
- "My kid also won't drink from a normal cup or straw."
Parents of kids with special needs may experience all of the above and more all on the same day, or even in the same hour, with a low expectation that things are going to get better soon. So in this situation, depending on my mood and how much sleep I've gotten, "Me, too" can sound hilarious, ridiculous, irritating, or out of touch. EDITED TO CLARIFY: This does not apply to all cases of "me, too," - just the ones where the purpose of the "me, too" seems to be to suggest that Quinn is not all that unusual...
If you are a parent of a kid with special needs, then by all means, "Me, too" is very appropriate and will most likely be appreciated. If you are a parent of a kid whose development is roughly on target most of the time, then some more helpful responses are "That sucks" or "Here's a big glass of red wine."
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